Quotes by Alice Miller

Alice Miller

Almost everywhere we find . . . the use of various coercive measures, to rid ourselves as quickly as possible of the child withinus–i.e., the weak, helpless, dependent creature–in order to become an independent competent adult deserving of respect. When we reencounter this creature in our children, we persecute it with the same measures once used in ourselves.

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An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time.

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Anyone who has ever been a mother or father and is at all honest knows from experience how difficult it can be for parents to accept certain aspects of their children. It is especially painful to have to admit this if we really love our child and want to respect his or her individuality yet are unable to do so.

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Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It is only with the uncovering of the complete truth as it affects all those involved that a genuinely viable solution can be found to the dangers of child abuse.

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Children

Ignorance

Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one’s own despised and unwanted feelings.

Defense

Feelings

Warrior

Discipline is … life-inhibiting, is at the very least curtailment of vital activity insofar as the latter cannot develop as it wishes but is confined within specific limits and subjected to specific rules.

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Wish

Disrespect is the weapon of the weak

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Don’t ever dare to take your college as a matter of course – because, like democracy and freedom, many people you’ll never know have broken their hearts to get it for you.

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Graduation

Heart

Empathy grows as we learn.

Empathy

Grows

Every child has a legitimate narcissistic need to be noticed, understood, taken seriously, and respected by his mother. In the first weeks and months of life he needs to have the mother at his disposal, must be able to use her and to be mirrored by her.

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Mother

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Quotes by Alice Miller

Alice Miller

An unacknowledged trauma is like a wound that never heals over and may start to bleed again at any time.

Child abuse damages a person for life and that damage is in no way diminished by the ignorance of the perpetrator. It is only with the uncovering of the complete truth as it affects all those involved that a genuinely viable solution can be found to the dangers of child abuse.

Contempt is the weapon of the weak and a defense against one’s own despised and unwanted feelings.

Discipline is … life-inhibiting, is at the very least curtailment of vital activity insofar as the latter cannot develop as it wishes but is confined within specific limits and subjected to specific rules.

Disrespect is the weapon of the weak

Don’t ever dare to take your college as a matter of course – because, like democracy and freedom, many people you’ll never know have broken their hearts to get it for you.

Empathy grows as we learn.

Every child has a legitimate narcissistic need to be noticed, understood, taken seriously, and respected by his mother. In the first weeks and months of life he needs to have the mother at his disposal, must be able to use her and to be mirrored by her.

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